Why are you unhappy?

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I know there will be times in our lives when rubbish things happen. We become ill, we loose a loved one or we face redundancy. At these times we might be understandably unhappy. But what about the times when we feel unhappy and we don’t really know why. What causes that pervading feeling of unhappiness and what can we do about it?

Nat Ware suggests “The first step to being happy is to understand why we’re often unhappy.” You could spend a long time contemplating why you are feeling unhappy and still not really understand why. Luckily Nat has a suggestion.  He believes “We are unhappy when our expectations exceed reality“.Read More »

Walking Back To Happiness

As I have already shared in my previous posts – I am planning to a lot more walking this year. I mean ‘proper’ walking. So it was time to invest in some good walking boots and other bits of vital walking kit.

I’m expecting my first few walks to be a tad on the cold side in the beautiful British countryside. I’m going for the warm and dry look! I managed to get some January sale bargains.

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Fridays – I need them like oxygen

As some of you know, I started a new job in January. I’m using my skills, experience and expertise while having lots of new challenges. It’s a great organisation and a great team. It all sounds just lovely doesn’t it?

However, I have inherited a bit of a mess with issues and problems, which as a manger it’s my job to resolve. Then of course there is the the huge workload. I can spend 5 hrs a day in meetings, often do not get a lunch break and have to stay late to get work done.

I keep reminding myself,  prior to starting the job, I’d been incredibly ill and stuck in bed for 2 weeks. So it’s no surprise that by Thursday evening my brain and body are totally done in.Read More »

What’s the value in reading fiction?

One of my tasks/ goals for 2016 was to read more – I Spy Book Challenge 2016 

I’m a fan of audio books. I regularly listen on my mp3 – walking the dog, doing housework, soaking in the bath and in bed before sleep. Listening to books is going great – it’s reading books that is not quite going to plan.

I have a small bookcase seriously over flowing with fiction books. There are some books I am looking forward to reading. But I just don’t seem to be making time in my life to read books. Admittedly, when I have free time to read, there is now a tendency to go to my WordPress Reader to explore other people’s blogs and support my fellow bloggers. In the modern world there is a a lot of options for escapism and distraction – the massive world of the internet, box sets, films galore and of course blogs, blogs and more blogs. I want to find space in my life for books.

In an attempt to remind myself of the value of reading fiction, I am exploring the benefits of reading fiction. Read More »

The Quest for Happiness v Attitude Gratitude

 

piglet_gratitude_winnie_the_poohAnyone who has ever checked out any health, well being or self help section of a book shop knows that ‘Happiness’ is one of the buzz words. There are blog posts a plenty.  Get it and you’ve go everything. It’s this thing that we are encouraged to seek and strive for. It’s the thing that will make it all okay.

If it works for you – that’s great but it all just feels a little bit unrealistic to me. After all isn’t happiness a feeling? It’s an emotion right? Emotions are not fixed states, they ebb and flow. We do not expect to always feel angry or sad so why does a state of happiness feel like something we should aim for? Like we expect to experience sadness and anger in our lives, we will also experience happiness. However, it is not possible for it to remain constant.Read More »