Fridays – I need them like oxygen

As some of you know, I started a new job in January. I’m using my skills, experience and expertise while having lots of new challenges. It’s a great organisation and a great team. It all sounds just lovely doesn’t it?

However, I have inherited a bit of a mess with issues and problems, which as a manger it’s my job to resolve. Then of course there is the the huge workload. I can spend 5 hrs a day in meetings, often do not get a lunch break and have to stay late to get work done.

I keep reminding myself,  prior to starting the job, I’d been incredibly ill and stuck in bed for 2 weeks. So it’s no surprise that by Thursday evening my brain and body are totally done in.Read More »

The Quest for Happiness v Attitude Gratitude

 

piglet_gratitude_winnie_the_poohAnyone who has ever checked out any health, well being or self help section of a book shop knows that ‘Happiness’ is one of the buzz words. There are blog posts a plenty.  Get it and you’ve go everything. It’s this thing that we are encouraged to seek and strive for. It’s the thing that will make it all okay.

If it works for you – that’s great but it all just feels a little bit unrealistic to me. After all isn’t happiness a feeling? It’s an emotion right? Emotions are not fixed states, they ebb and flow. We do not expect to always feel angry or sad so why does a state of happiness feel like something we should aim for? Like we expect to experience sadness and anger in our lives, we will also experience happiness. However, it is not possible for it to remain constant.Read More »

Do it like the Danish – Hygge

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I have not been fortunate enough to ever visit Denmark. It is often reported as being one of the ‘happiest countries’. These sort of reports always intrigue me. What is that makes these places the happiest?

They have proper winters – up to 17 hours of darkness per day and average temperatures around 0C.

Winter is a season I struggle to fully embrace and appreciate. I have personal reasons so it’s not just the darkness and the weather, it’s a sad time for me (that’s for another day and a different post).

This year I am on a mission to make friends with winter.

Here in the UK we are definitely preparing for the winter. The clocks have changed, bringer longer periods of darkness. The sunny, blue sky, crisp autumn days seem to have faded. My mission is underway.

This year, I am planning to do it like a Dane! If they can be happy in winter, I want some of what they have.Read More »

The Reality Slap. Finding Fulfillment.

The Reality Slap

Summary The first thing to say about this book is – great title.Who hasn’t experienced   those moments when reality pops up and gives you a good old slap. The premise is that there is a gap between the reality we have and the reality we want. The bigger the gap, the more difficult life can be. Sitting in the gap, will have you dwelling negatively on the past or anxiously worrying about the future. The book offers some really useful thoughts and ideas about how to live with the gap without getting stuck in it.

10 Useful Things I’ve Learnt

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