Why are you unhappy?

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I know there will be times in our lives when rubbish things happen. We become ill, we loose a loved one or we face redundancy. At these times we might be understandably unhappy. But what about the times when we feel unhappy and we don’t really know why. What causes that pervading feeling of unhappiness and what can we do about it?

Nat Ware suggests “The first step to being happy is to understand why we’re often unhappy.” You could spend a long time contemplating why you are feeling unhappy and still not really understand why. Luckily Nat has a suggestion.  He believes “We are unhappy when our expectations exceed reality“.Read More »

Making Memory Jam

Okay so maybe I’m getting old (41 and counting) but the years seem to be passing by so quickly. Where is time going? Who is sneaking in and stealing my life?

After a few difficult years and some loss, I am feeling very positive about 2017. I have lots of good things to look forward to.

One of the benefits of blogging is that it provides a tool for reflecting on your life. Some of my fellow bloggers had lovely posts summarising their 2016.

This year I am going to making memory jam. Memory jam you ask – is this some old family recipe? Not quite.Read More »

Breathe Journal

So folks, I’m taking this year seriously – what I mean is – I’m giving it my all. I know what I want and I know what I need to do. I’ve even set aside some time to make it all happen. I am planning and working on turning the plans into actions.

One thing I have been trying to take up for several years is journaling.  Each new year I buy a nice little diary to write my gratitude lists for each day. It rarely sticks beyond a couple of weeks, then I start to forget and eventually give up. But  you know what, I’m not giving up on the idea. This year I have ditched the little diary. I have treated myself to this lovely A4 size journal and week planner –

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Theme for 2017

After 2016 turned into a difficult and challenging year, I am very much looking forward to new directions in 2017.

During the latter half of 2016 my health and well-being took a real set back. I had been prioritising other things. I had been giving some sound advice all year to the people I manage. Eventually I started to hear the advice and take it on board for myself.

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A new year means a new direction and some different priorities. I have decided on an a core theme for 2017 –Read More »

Brain shrinkage & 10 other signs it’s time to quit

For about 8 months I have been suffering from work related stress. My body and brain has been telling me for some time that life was not going well and I was done in. We all have to deal with stress and stress can be a good thing. However, there is a tipping point when stress becomes damaging. At the point when you are seriously effecting your health and well-being, it’s time to do something about it.

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Stress really can have serious effects on your brain, including brain shrinkage. Aaaaaaahhhhh! My brain is shrinking!

You can find yourself trapped in a cycle of stress.  It can also cause other long term health issues, like depression and Alzheimer’s.

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Shopping for Time

I am a bit of a book buyer. I probably have enough books to last me about 3 years. Yet I still find myself being sucked into book shops and feel compelled to buy books. Some time ago I saw this quote and it got me thinking.

Is this what underlies my booking buying? I think it might be. I do find myself sometimes looking longingly at my bookshelves, hoping for some free time just to sit and read books. I think there is a part of me that thinks that by buying books, it will somehow magically create the time in my life to read them.

It’s not just my book buying habits that can be explained by this desire. I think it may explain some of my other shopping habits too. The other items that I often feel compelled to buy are handcraft things. I have a decent amount of card making and decopatch supplies and I still find myself occasionally buying some more. I never seem to have the time to actually use them but I still really want to. I have recently spent quite a bit of time shopping on line for a lovely range of handcraft supplies – felting kit, pompom makers, lots of colourful buttons, more decopatch and card making supplies and the list goes on…………Read More »

The Procrastinator and the Dark Playground

So I’m a bit of a procrastinator. Not in all areas of my life. I have a strong work ethic and I’m generally motivated in my work.Throughout my years of studying, my assignments were always done in advance of the deadline. However, I can procrastinate in my day to day life. There are so many things I want to do but when it comes down to it, I just don’t seem to be able to find my mojo to get them done. I want to get back to running and yoga. I have loads of art and craft ideas I want to try. I have so many interesting books waiting to e read. It’s just not really happening.

I think I am spending too much time in the Dark Playground! Don’t worry, it sounds worse than it is. I have come to understand about the ‘Dark Playground’ from Tim Urban. Here’s a drawing of his Dark Playground.Read More »